You can put an end to it starting today, and you don't need to sacrifice your pride or decorum to do it.We compare ourselves to others all the time because we get a feeling of safety and security when we know we're just as good as--if not better than--someone else.
Once you understand what's driving that feeling in your gut, you can tackle it head on.People are so closed off some times that when someone comes along and calls bullshit on their way of thinking, they don’t like that.You are open to hearing points of view and arguments for both sides of the story. Rather than sitting around feeling sorry for yourself, you take action and find solutions to your problems.But you can identify the main points you want to bring up and practice saying those in a few different ways.Standing proud and tall communicates to the intimidating person that you can't be pushed around, that you're sure of yourself. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy discusses in her well-received Ted Talk, good posture actually can the feelings of confidence you hope to portray. Science has proven that there are "mirror neurons" in the brain that respond to elements like facial expression and contribute to empathy, so if you adopt an approachable demeanor, you can get back what you give.It’s important, however, to be aware of how people perceive you so that you can enjoy fulfilling relationships and understand where others are coming from.
You might find that some of these personality traits are qualities you like about yourself, while some might not be.The feeling of intimidation can make you mentally choke, leaving you at a loss for words that makes you feel even worse.You don't have to come up with a script you'll repeat word for word, especially because you have to respond naturally to whatever the other person says back.I statements typically keep intimidating individuals from moving to the defensive and trying to be even more assertive.At the same time, firmness within truthful I statements tells the intimidating person that you have strength of your own.You are out there taking life by the horns, and you know that can be intimidating for some people who are afraid of what might happen if they took the leap of faith you have.