Womens sex drive drops after dating
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Marta Meana of the University of Nevada at Las Vegas spelled it out simply in an interview with me at the annual Society for Sex Therapy and Research conference in 2017.
The psychiatrist and sexual-health practitioner Elisabeth Gordon told me that in her clinical experience, as in the data, women disproportionately present with lower sexual desire than their male partners of a year or more, and in the longer term as well.
She wants to want John and be by him in that can’t-get-enough-of-each-other-way experts call “limerence”—the initial period of a relationship when it’s all new and hot. She has suggested more radical-seeming potential fixes, too, like opening up the marriage.
Read: The “untrue” woman Jane’s perseverance might make her a lot of things: an idealist, a dreamer, a canny sexual strategist, even—again channeling typical anxieties—unrealistic, selfish, or entitled.
Annika Gunst, one of the study’s co-authors, told me that she and her colleagues initially suspected this might be related to having kids.
But when the researchers controlled for that variable, it turned out to have no impact.
And it isn’t Jane.“The problem is not that they are functionally unable to have sex, or to have orgasms. It’s that the sex they’re having isn’t what she ,” Gotzis told me in a recent phone conversation.
And like other straight women he sees, “she’s confused and demoralized by it.But her sexual struggles in a long-term relationship, orgasms and frequency of sex notwithstanding, make her something else again: normal.Although most people in sexual partnerships end up facing the conundrum biologists call “habituation to a stimulus” over time, a growing body of research suggests that heterosexual women, in the aggregate, are likely to face this problem earlier in the relationship than men.Nelson explains that if “their initial tries don’t work, [women] will many times shut down totally or turn outward to an affair or an online ‘friend,’ creating …a flirty texting or social-media relationship.” When I asked Gotzis where he thinks John and Jane are headed, he told me he is not sure that they will stay together.Read: Multiple lovers, without jealousy Many women want monogamy.